Month: November 2015

As kids, we have all learnt the process of filtration, right? And we also apply that every day in our life in simple day to day activities like having tea. While we follow the process of filtration everyday every moment in life in making tea, think:

What are you actually doing in the process of making tea?

You are actually passing the liquid tea and solid tea particles through a filter and thereby separate the liquid tea from the solid tea particles, right?

So now, think again, what do you make use of?

What do you retain?

And what do you discard?

Normally the liquid tea is taken for consumption and the solid tea particles are discarded as not been used.

Now think again, if you have to make the best use of the tea, having the liquid tea is satisfying and meeting the purpose of making tea, simultaneouslyhow would using tea particles help you?

Yes you can make use of solid tea particles as a fertilizer for plants instead of discarding away as failure, when you train your mind to never give up and think there is no failure only feedback.

Realize the moment we began to see the benefits of all the things, then how would life be?

In life too, everything that we do, our mind constantly follows the process of filtration and filters something in and filters something out.

Now, look back as you work every day and you work hard to meet your targets, the process of working is the process of making tea, the liquid tea is the result that you produce.

While the solid tea particles instead of discarding it as failure of the goals not achieved, if used as the feedback of your actions to achieve your goals, how would your performance be?

So, how do you train your mind to make use of everything, in the process of achieving your goals, follow the below steps:

1. Keep your goal constant: if you are making tea, and in the process you realize you don’t have milk, don’t end up making green tea. Let your mind never fail on the goal of having tea.
2. Differentiate between goals and results: That is the solid tea particles are not to be discarded considering it as failure rather used as a feedback. The actions you take and the intermediate results of your action is a feedback and not the final result of your actions , make a shift in your mind by finding the benefits of these result as feedback and not as a failure of your actions towards reaching your goals.
3. Change your strategy and not goal: Once you get feedback and know for sure it is not a failure and your mind will never fail, you began to re-strategize find new alternative ways of achieving your goals.

Apply these 3 steps to train your mind which never fails, as there is no failure only feedback.

 

Stress is Steering To Rear End Soulfully Seamlessly

Yes that’s right we as human beings are champions in getting stressed and we steer ourselves to put ourselves in the dead end of life situations with our full soul into it and we can do it every time very seamlessly, right?

Now think about it, have we been taught by our parents or teachers on ways to get stressed?

Or is it our inborn ability?

Realize, just the way you have the ability to get stressed, you also possess the ability to relieve yourself from stress, right?

If there is day there is night

The Good and the bad

The Right and the wrong

The truth and the Lies

Human beings have all the potential to create something and also to destroy something, so does it hold true for our emotions, our state of being, our behavior and our habits.

Now, let’s understand, how can we be calm from stressed state.

Calm is Call, Alter, Love, and Mindfulness, here’s how:

Step 1: Call of your internal state

Hear, what do your inner voices shout out when stressed?

What do you tell yourself when stressed?

Does that all lead to:

“I cannot do this ….”

“It’s not happening …”

“I am short of time, resources, people and lack of support…”

Step 2: Alter your internal dialogues

Stop for a moment and not let stress engulf you

The moment you start feeling uncomfortable, the muscle tension increases in your body and you hear the negative internal dialogues, just give a command to your mind: “STOP” and stop all the negative feedbacks from growing and increasing inside your mind.

Step 3: Love yourself

With the love in your heart, change your inner dialogues from negative to positive

Realize and tell yourself just the way I have felt this stress now, I also have the ability to be relax and calm and give these commands “RELAX” to your mind and continue telling this to yourself.While you relax, feel the love that you have for your own self and for all the people you care for. As you love yourself more the more your mind can relax.

Step 4: Mindfulness

Find new ways to reach your goals

And as you feel relax, now re-visit the situation you are into , and taking stress as an indicator, a feedback of your actions, think and re-strategize other ways and means of doing your task to reach your goals in the current scenario that you are into.

Ask yourself the following:

• What do I need to accept in this situation?
• What are the facts of the situation?
• Considering these facts and the belief in myself, what new strategies can Ibuild now to accomplish my goals?
• Apart from the resources that I have now, who else do I need to talk to, ask support for?

Using the above four steps, you can move yourself from being stressed to being calm and remember if you know to be stressed , you also know how to be calm.

As I walk down the streets, incidentally came across a school friend who was doing extremely well in life. With everything going for her, from successful business, a loving husband, a very supportive family to oodles of wealth and a plush life. Making me realize, she was living a dream.

And then in a dialogue with another friend that picture of this girl just zoomed in,exclaiming “Wow! This girl is really armed with some potential to have everything going for her.” Hearing this friend immediately jolted me up and pointed, that the human potential is not merely measured by financial status or even accorded by professional ranking. To begin with, one needs to get into the crux of the human personality and continue feeding it with intellect, physical and spiritual strength to persistently better our potential.

While there is a very thin line that demarcates good luck, destiny and human potential. Human potential continues to be a journey of hard work and unending bouts of determination.

Realizing that the human potential is not only centred to oneself but also ripples around as the person who explores human potential, will go all out to better the lives of the people around him and her. Instilling or making other people realise their own potential in turn making way to a better society. As person with higher human potential continues to be happy regardless of how they look or feel, by incessantly evolving with a learning process fostering personal growth and development.

So, how does one better their potential?

This is very simple: “Curiosity is the mother of all Invention”

Continue the journey inwards get inside self and others by being curious- Understanding the “HOW” part of everything.

We know the math of life, without any understanding HOW the formula was derived.

Even as we are growing we are constantly told to understand things! We do! And we do so by using a quick fix way of being judgemental.

We must keep the child-like curiosity alive to better the human potential.

3 Simple Steps to be Curious:

1. Think of the time when you were a child and see how were you curious?
2. Hear yourself asking questions to parents and people around
3. Get inside the child in you and feel how you felt curious, leading you to ask and ask more, finding out what you know and what you don’t know.

And continue to find how you can be curious to learn and continuously develop self and people around.

While talking to people, they often ask this question, “Will NLP help me to become a Better Coach?”
So, let us explore that a little bit … won’t this be interesting?.

Let us first understand what is coaching?

Simply put coaching is taking a person from point ‘A’ to point ‘B’. Helping a person move from present or stuck state to a new desired state, it could be gain more confidence, define goals, improve performance so on & so forth. The agenda of coaching could vary, prime thing to understand here is that every coach will work with one common thread common in all, the solution to get the results lies with the client (coachee).

Another amazing fact to know about coaching is, it is a very systematic approach to helping a person finds their answers within. Thus any coach must know proper and well tested tools to assist the client reach to solution at their pace.

Because NLP is a way to systematically understand and model the success leading patterns of human behaviors and mind, so it is a safe to practice and easy to adopt intervention for anyone.  Therefore NLP tools & techniques become for many an obvious tool of choice while coaching, as the very basic premise of NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming provides one with the tools and strategies that successfully work in self and others. NLP also widens the perspective of clients to discover and change un-useful behaviors that sabotage their goals.

Popularly known as outcome oriented and focusing on resources one has Now &ability one posses  to create Future, NLP also provides ways to specifically and objectively calibrate and identifies the physiological state, elicit mental strategies a person uses at any point in time, and then provides one to make a right choice, become resourceful enough to have all possible means to make a change and improve the present mental and physiological state of the person.

So what would you say about such powerful and proven technology of human change? And when already millions over the world are using it? Significantly affecting the masses people like Anthony Robbins, Barack Obama, Bill Gates, Bill Clinton and CEO’s, CFO’s and CXO’s of Fortune 500 companies have found it natural way to maximize success.

Still for you to instantly appreciate how wonderfully NLP can help anyone to be a better coach read below.

10 most common and easily attained benefits of NLP, extremely beneficial in coaching are:

1. Coach can use heightened sensory acuity with raised awareness to understand the client’s actual state

1. With NLP coach can help client build a more enriched and desired map of reality
2. The coach can understand the client’s Perceiving, Thinking and Responding mechanism
3. Building rapport with all kind of people, is almost instant with NLP tools and a must required need for a coach
4. Using NLP Language patterns, the Coach can masterfully directly communicate client, without offending or leading the client in any way. Thus maintaining the sacredness of coach approach.
5. The coach can intelligently handle and manage self & client’s emotions which otherwise are difficult.

7. Using NLP techniques the coach can articulate in a manner to make client reflect & rethink about own objections elegantly and knock them off wisely.
8. Getting into the desired state is a very useful technique of NLP, and much useful for a coach, to be in a composed, vibrant and balanced state.
9. Coach can help client Collapse Bad Anchors to get relief from anxiety and negative feelings or habits
10. With NLP the coach can help client, Model in any area of life, a piece of excellence that client admires in self or others

Hence, in our InnerMost shift Coaching model, we didn’t think twice before making NLP the basis of coaching apart from the fact that it is backed by principals of neuro-science, quantum physics, Best Practices that leads on to be outstanding, Indian value System and spiritual sciences etc.